Out of all of those books, the one that has been the most helpful is called "Help Me Live - 20 things people with cancer want you to know" by Lori Hope. If you have a friend or family member with cancer I strongly recommend that you read this book. Your friend or family member will be glad you did. The book is written by a former cancer patient and it is intended to help those dealing with cancer in their circle of family and friends best know how to encourage that person on their journey. It is literally a list of 20 things, plus several other lists and helpful suggestions.
Here are a few of the top 20 that resonated with me and my comments:
1. It's OK to say or do the wrong thing. - In fact you can just say, "I don't know what to say, but I wanted you to know that I love you and I'm praying for you."
2. I like to hear success stories, not horror stories. - You wouldn't believe some of the stories I've heard from well-meaning people!
3. I need to forget - and laugh. - Thanks to Cary, Teri, and PJ for always providing the humor! I love you!
4. I want compassion, not pity; comfort, not advice. - Please stop looking at me with pity! In a moment of frustration today I told Mark, "I am not a weenie sick person!! I am fine!" I am more than my cancer diagnosis.
5. I don't know why I got cancer, and I don't want to hear your theory. - This one is pretty self-explanatory!
That's just a sample, the book is full of helpful information. You can buy it on amazon.com or at your local Barnes & Noble. Go buy it today!